I recently changed circles. My life had changed so much that I felt I did not know what to do or who I was. It truly was perplexing and stressful. I returned home to my old town which had a few changes but is mostly the same.
After 8 years the major difference was that they had all got older. For me time had stopped in my town but for them many years had passed. They had new friends and families had changed with people missing and new arrivals. All of it I had missed.
During my period of transition one striking thing I noticed was just how kind and welcoming everyone is. It is so humbling as my time in Korea was a place I missed dearly.
What made it worse was my family were still there. Saying goodbye to my 2 sons was heartbreaking beyond anything Ive felt before. No one should have to experience that. It was so hard in fact that my head was not okay for over two weeks. I am a programmer who could not concentrate on a computer.
And that then built up even more stress. To pile on that I had jet lag for over a week and then I caught bronchitis. And to really make my time more wonderful I fell down the stairs injuring my shoulder and neck.
But on the plus side I have been to the doctors and I am all good.
When I planned to come here I had ideas and a schedule but that all took a back seat as I never planned for people and emotion. It was something that punched me clean in the gut and knocked me for six as in my head I wanted to be ready to take on anything instantly.
So after nearly 4 weeks I have finally got my focus back. That was mostly due to friends, neighbors and family being there with wonderful advice.
So when I ask what matters it is the people around me as they surprised me in many happy ways. And now it is up to me to return the favor.